20-Something, 20-Everything: A Quarter-Life Woman's Guide to Balance and Direction

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New World Library, Sep 24, 2010 - Self-Help - 384 pages
The midtwenties through the midthirties can be a time of difficult transition: the security blankets of college and parents are gone, and it’s suddenly time to make far-reaching decisions about career, investments, and adult identity. When author Christine Hassler experienced what she calls the "twenties triangle", she found that she was not alone. In fact, an entire generation of young women is questioning their choices, unsure if what they’ve been striving for is what they really want. They’re eager to set a new course for their lives, even if that means giving up what they have. Hassler herself left a fast-moving career that wasn’t right for her and instead took the risk of starting her own business. Now, based on her own experience and interviews with hundreds of women, she shares heartfelt stories on issues from career to parents to boyfriends to babies. Yet she also provides practical exercises to enable today’s woman to chart a new direction for her life.
 

Contents

Welcome to Your TwentySomething Crisis
1
LIST OF EXERCISES xiii
13
THE TWENTIES TRIANGLE
19
EVERYTHING
20
Who Am
25
Interviewing Other Women
28
Chameleon Identity
32
Acting the Part
34
Financial Security
165
What Role Has Money Played in Your Life?
170
Your Money Memories
172
Taking a FinancialPast Inventory
175
Your Financial IQ
178
How Do You Relate to Money?
183
Is Your Spending in Sync with Your Income?
187
Creating a Budget
189

Who Do You Want to Be? 6 Selecting and Getting to Know a Mentor 36
36
Is Your Sense of Self Superficial? 8 Your Belief Bio 45
45
What Do I Want?
47
Getting to the Core of What You Want
55
Exploring Your Heart and Head
58
Symptoms of Expectation Hangovers
62
Discerning Expectations
64
What Does Having It All Mean? 14 Demystifying Your Goals 70
70
Drawing Your Life
73
Examining Your NotEnoughness
79
Taking a Life Inventory
85
Making Your ToDo List
91
Securing Your Independence
99
Reflecting on Your Independence
103
Examining Your Decisions
109
Your Definition of Independence
113
Independence versus Interdependence
116
Your Twenties Toolbox
119
Nurturing Yourself
123
SelfSecurity
127
Rating Your SelfSecurity
128
How Much Do You Really Like Yourself?
134
Examining Old Wounds
136
Your Favorite Quick Fixes
138
The Comparison Game
144
Is Comparison Making You Insecure?
146
Becoming an Investigator
148
Is Comparison Harming You?
150
Transforming Competitive Energy
153
How Do You See Yourself?
159
Knowing What You Can and Cannot Change
161
How Well Do You Take Care of Yourself?
162
How Will You Get What You Want?
195
Becoming a Proactive Financial Planner
198
TwentySomething Love
207
What Sacrifices Do You Make?
210
Adjustments and Sacrifices
212
Listing What You Want
217
Fantasy versus Reality
222
Identifying RedFlag Men
224
Do You or Dont You?
230
Making Your Wish List
232
Making Your Own Dating Rulebook
235
The Relationship Affirmation
239
Are You Settling?
244
Checking in with Yourself
252
Taking a Breakup Inventory
257
Breakup Dos and Donts
259
TwentySomething Work
265
Discovering Who You Are on the Career Path
270
Disentangling Who You Are from What You Do
273
Identifying Your Purpose
278
Why Are You Doing What Youre Doing?
283
Uncovering the AhHa
288
Making a Career Timeline
293
Skills and Dreams
295
Taking the Right Risks
298
What Adjustments and Sacrifices Will You Make?
304
QOL Uppers
305
RoadMapping Your Career Path
308
TwentySomething Can Be Everything
311
About the Author
331
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About the author (2010)

Christine Hassler, MA, left her successful job as a Hollywood agent at age twenty-five to pursue a life she could be passionate about. She is a life coach with a counseling emphasis specializing in relationships, career, and self-fulfillment. She supports men and women in discovering the answers to the questions, "Who am I?” “What do I want?” and “How do I get it?" As a professional speaker, Christine leads seminars and workshops for audiences around the country. She has appeared on the Today show, CNN, and PBS, as well as various local television and radio shows. Christine is the author of Twenty-Something, Twenty-Everything: A Quarterlife Woman's Guide to Balance and Direction (New World Library, 2005). Christine's training is from the Communication Arts Company and she holds her masters degree in psychology from the University of Santa Monica. She received her undergraduate degree from Northwestern University. Originally from Dallas, Texas, she now lives in Los Angeles with her husband, Chris. To contact Christine or to learn more about her workshops, speaking events, and coaching sessions, visit www.christinehassler.com.

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