20-Something, 20-Everything: A Quarter-Life Woman's Guide to Balance and DirectionThe midtwenties through the midthirties can be a time of difficult transition: the security blankets of college and parents are gone, and it’s suddenly time to make far-reaching decisions about career, investments, and adult identity. When author Christine Hassler experienced what she calls the "twenties triangle", she found that she was not alone. In fact, an entire generation of young women is questioning their choices, unsure if what they’ve been striving for is what they really want. They’re eager to set a new course for their lives, even if that means giving up what they have. Hassler herself left a fast-moving career that wasn’t right for her and instead took the risk of starting her own business. Now, based on her own experience and interviews with hundreds of women, she shares heartfelt stories on issues from career to parents to boyfriends to babies. Yet she also provides practical exercises to enable today’s woman to chart a new direction for her life. |
Contents
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Who Am | 25 |
Interviewing Other Women | 28 |
Chameleon Identity | 32 |
Acting the Part | 34 |
Financial Security | 165 |
What Role Has Money Played in Your Life? | 170 |
Your Money Memories | 172 |
Taking a FinancialPast Inventory | 175 |
Your Financial IQ | 178 |
How Do You Relate to Money? | 183 |
Is Your Spending in Sync with Your Income? | 187 |
Creating a Budget | 189 |
Who Do You Want to Be? 6 Selecting and Getting to Know a Mentor 36 | 36 |
Is Your Sense of Self Superficial? 8 Your Belief Bio 45 | 45 |
What Do I Want? | 47 |
Getting to the Core of What You Want | 55 |
Exploring Your Heart and Head | 58 |
Symptoms of Expectation Hangovers | 62 |
Discerning Expectations | 64 |
What Does Having It All Mean? 14 Demystifying Your Goals 70 | 70 |
Drawing Your Life | 73 |
Examining Your NotEnoughness | 79 |
Taking a Life Inventory | 85 |
Making Your ToDo List | 91 |
Securing Your Independence | 99 |
Reflecting on Your Independence | 103 |
Examining Your Decisions | 109 |
Your Definition of Independence | 113 |
Independence versus Interdependence | 116 |
Your Twenties Toolbox | 119 |
Nurturing Yourself | 123 |
SelfSecurity | 127 |
Rating Your SelfSecurity | 128 |
How Much Do You Really Like Yourself? | 134 |
Examining Old Wounds | 136 |
Your Favorite Quick Fixes | 138 |
The Comparison Game | 144 |
Is Comparison Making You Insecure? | 146 |
Becoming an Investigator | 148 |
Is Comparison Harming You? | 150 |
Transforming Competitive Energy | 153 |
How Do You See Yourself? | 159 |
Knowing What You Can and Cannot Change | 161 |
How Well Do You Take Care of Yourself? | 162 |
How Will You Get What You Want? | 195 |
Becoming a Proactive Financial Planner | 198 |
TwentySomething Love | 207 |
What Sacrifices Do You Make? | 210 |
Adjustments and Sacrifices | 212 |
Listing What You Want | 217 |
Fantasy versus Reality | 222 |
Identifying RedFlag Men | 224 |
Do You or Dont You? | 230 |
Making Your Wish List | 232 |
Making Your Own Dating Rulebook | 235 |
The Relationship Affirmation | 239 |
Are You Settling? | 244 |
Checking in with Yourself | 252 |
Taking a Breakup Inventory | 257 |
Breakup Dos and Donts | 259 |
TwentySomething Work | 265 |
Discovering Who You Are on the Career Path | 270 |
Disentangling Who You Are from What You Do | 273 |
Identifying Your Purpose | 278 |
Why Are You Doing What Youre Doing? | 283 |
Uncovering the AhHa | 288 |
Making a Career Timeline | 293 |
Skills and Dreams | 295 |
Taking the Right Risks | 298 |
What Adjustments and Sacrifices Will You Make? | 304 |
QOL Uppers | 305 |
RoadMapping Your Career Path | 308 |
TwentySomething Can Be Everything | 311 |
About the Author | 331 |
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